让自己快乐

   

生活的快乐与否，完全决定于个人对人、事、物的看法如何，因为，生活是由思想造成的。有了快乐的思想和行为，你就能感到快乐！教你一些快乐的秘诀：
　　一、只为今天，我要快乐。假如林肯所说的“大部分的人只要下定决心都能很快乐”这句话是对的，那么快乐是来自内心，而不是存在于外在。
　　二、只为今天，我要让自己适应一切，而不去试着调整一切来适应我的欲望。我要以这种态度接受我的家庭、我的事业和我的运气。
　　三、只为今天，我要爱护我的身体。我要多加运动，善自照顾，善自珍惜；不损伤它，不忽视它；使它成为我争取成功的好基础。
　　四、只为今天，我要加强我的思想。。我要学一些有用的东西，我不要做一个胡思乱想的人。我要看一些需要思考、更需要集中精神才能看的书。
　　五、只为今天，我要用三件事锻炼我的灵魂：我要为别人做一件事，是好事，但不要让人家知道；我还要做两件我并不想做的事，这只是为了锻炼。
　　六、只为今天，我要做个讨人喜欢的人，外表要尽量修饰，衣着要尽量得体，说话低声，行动优雅，丝毫不在乎别人的毁誉。对任何事都不挑毛病，也不干涉和教训别人。
　　七、只为今天，我要试着只考虑怎么度过今天，而不把我一生的问题一次解决。因为，我虽能连续十二个钟点做一件事，但若要我一辈子都这样做下去的话，就会吓坏了我。
　　八、只为今天，我要订下一个计划。我写下每个钟头该做些什么事；也许我不会完全照着做，但还是要订下这个计划；这至少可免除两个缺点——过分仓卒和犹豫不决。
　　九、只为今天，我要为自己留下安静的半个钟点，轻松一番。在这半个钟点里，我要想到神，使我的生命中更充满希望。
　　十、只为今天，我要心中毫不惧怕。尤其是，我不要怕快乐，我要去欣赏美的一切，去爱，去相信我爱的那些人会爱我。

让自己快乐起来的习惯:

你也许听说过一些微不足道却很有意义的事情。一位名叫理查德・考奇的作家最近做的一项调查就是其中一例。通过对成百上千快乐的人所做的调查，他发现使他们感到快乐的事竟如此出人意料。

            究竟什么使人感到幸福、快乐？答案不是甜蜜的爱情，十足的运气和额外的收入。考奇说：“那些快乐的人们组成了我命名的‘五点快乐习惯’。”也就是说他们直 接采取很短的、五分钟甚至更短时间的方法，就能使自己和周围的亲朋好友感到快乐。以下就是这些简便易行的方法：

            1、善意、礼让能带给你快乐。

            在汽车疾驰过程中，让另一辆车在你前面行驶；在超市排队购物时，让一位疲惫的老奶奶站在你前面；与家有病人的同事开一个善意的玩笑等等。这些日常生活小事都会使你感到快乐。

            美国密执安州的社会心理学家、哲学博士戴维・麦尔斯说：“人类是社会性的高等动物，这就必然使我们与其他人之间建立一种联系。例如帮助别人，哪怕是尽了微 薄的力量，或者帮助的是一位陌生人等等，这些都会促成人们一种有联系的感觉。”另外，当你帮助别人时，他们会非常感动，或以微笑报答，或以一句感激的话酬 谢，这些都会使你找回自我。

            2、及时问候亲友能带给你快乐。

            给朋友打一个电话，仅仅是为了问候一声。居住在图森的35岁的会计布伦达・瑞莉正在为工作的事而烦恼。在与好朋友一番谈吐之后，又变得快乐起来。这对研究人员来说不足为奇。因为他们经过长时间研究认为，朋友对于人们的健康快乐是必不可少的。

            快乐的人每天都会得到一种短暂的友好问候，仅仅五分钟的电话就会使人们快乐起来。麦尔斯说：“这是因为它让我们记起了生活中的关爱，享受到生活中的喜悦，分担了生活中的忧虑。”

            3、适当地款待自己能给你快乐。

            早餐时，用蛋糕代替老一套的小饼。在倒霉的这天到小吃店纵情地享受一下。

            或双腿平搁起来休息一会儿，你就会有另一种心情。快乐的人们允许他们自己每天都得到款待。

            为什么每天的款待这么重要？华盛顿大学心理教授、情绪研究员兰迪・拉森说：

            “酬劳自己可以肯定你是值得好好款待的人。这样你就会找到自尊，找到快乐。”

            4、适量的运动能带给你快乐。

            要爬楼梯不要乘电梯。把车停在远处的林荫路上提前一站下车走回家等，这些简单的运动都会使人感到快乐。快乐的人每天都要做类似的运动。考奇发现这些运动能 有效地放松绷紧的神经，使人们感到轻松快乐。考奇说：“五分钟轻快的漫步就可以使人精神饱满。”

            5、尝试新事物能带给你快乐。

            看报纸；玩一种纵横填字游戏；观察奇、特、险的东西；尝试一种新办法等等，都会使人增加快感。快乐的人们每天也做这些事情。

让自己快乐起来的方法:

1. 要有目标和追求 2. 经常保持微笑 3 .学会和别人一起分享喜悦 4. 乐于助人 5 .并保持自己的一颗童心 6.学会和各种人愉快的相处 7 .保持幽默感 8.有几个知心朋友 9.学会宽恕他人 10.常和别人保持合作,并从中获得乐趣 11.保持高度的自信心 12.尊重弱者 13.偶尔放纵一下自己 14.有空给自己充一下电 15.具备胆识和勇气 16.最后不要财迷

让自己即刻快乐的方法:

美国一家调查机构调查了全世界22个国家人的快乐度。结果是，美国人的快乐度最高，46%美国人对自己的生活感到快乐，其次是印度，37%的印度人乐呵呵地生活着，中国人快乐度最低，位列榜末，只有9%的中国人觉得活着快乐。

这里介绍美国专家推荐的12个美国式让自己即刻快乐的方法，也许中国人可以试着尝试一下，看看自己的快乐度是不是也能得到改善和提高：

1、             每天拍几张照片

心理学家建议，每天用相机拍下一些身边的人和事，如窗外的树木、路边的小花、令居家的孩子和朋友的婚礼。将这些随时可能被遗忘得片段记录起来，当你不定期整理照片时，你会觉得所有的细节都是美好回忆，没有什么可抱怨的，于是人会很容易变得快乐起来。

2、             看悲伤的电影

看一部令人伤感的电影，如《当男人爱上女人》，情难自禁时，不妨尽情地放声哭出来，然后安慰自己说，还好这只是电影情节，并不是真实的生活，心情便会大有改观。这是一种反向思考的方法，常运用在心理学中，帮助人们换角度思考问题。

3、             在周末的清晨做白日梦

不 少能干的主妇，会从星期六一大早起床开始，马不停蹄地做家务活，如收拾屋子，清洗马桶等。这样的习惯常常会让人在星期六晚上疲惫不堪，并影响到星期日的睡 眠。不妨暂时抛开那些琐碎的家务活，在周末的清晨做一个美美的白日梦。不要自责，而应鼓励自己说：“我工作那么辛苦，挥霍一下自己的休息时间，无可厚 非。”

4、             定期写邮件

和相识多年的朋友定期有邮件的形式保持联系。有些日记习惯的人，只是在纸上随手涂鸦或草草地写上几句，便能反映出潜意识中的心理状态，写邮件也是如此。而定期与朋友通邮件，聊聊最近的生活，不仅能帮助你放下心里的事情，还能帮助你拾起被淡漠的友情。

5、             在水边散步

有研究指出，因为在婴儿时期便置身于羊水，因此人与生俱来的就是亲水的。在水边散步，能有效地帮助人放松身心，即使烦恼再多，在有绿树有流水的环境中，你也能暂时抛开一切，为自己“偷”得片刻悠闲。

6、          偶尔吃一顿大餐

吃 一顿大餐的美妙在于，不仅能享受到美味可口的食物，还能让你感觉自己受到特别礼遇。人受到与别人不同的照顾时，心情会不知不觉地变好。我们在小时候都可能 有类似这样的经历，当父母特意为你买一只与其他孩子不一样的、漂亮的碗，你会高高兴兴地吃下比平时多的食物，即使不爱吃的食物也变得“可爱”起来。

7、             星期做一次美甲

当看见自己又长又难看的指甲时，没人会有好心情。每星期做一次美甲，不仅能让你的指甲看起来更加整洁、漂亮，还能让你有“一切尽在掌握”的满足感，人也由此变得豁然开朗。

8、参加集体活动

虽然独处也是调解心情的方法之一，但是不要吝啬自己的休息时间，分出一部分给集体活动。登山、郊游、野餐、Party、歌友会……鼓励自己积极参加集体活动，你会在共同的玩乐中找到让自己坚强、平和的力量。

9、定期游泳

游泳是最消耗体力的运动之一，但这种让人精疲力竭的活动，能让人摆脱烦恼，身心舒展。选择一个人去游泳也不错，被水包围其中，再糟糕的心情也能被软化。

10、一边开车，一边大声歌唱

心情不好时，打开车子上的收音机调到较大音量，跟着里面播放的旋律大声歌唱，完全不必在意别人偷来异样的眼神。也许此时的你在别人眼中有点傻呼呼的，但这确实是一种让人快速释放心情的好方法。

11、一边喝咖啡，一边读小说

挑一家出名的咖啡馆，带上一本近期最让你感兴趣的小说，选一个靠窗边的位置，坐下来点一杯咖啡，边喝边读……是的，这是电影里常常出现的“小资”镜头。但那又有什么关系，让自己体验一下电影中才有的浪漫镜头，你也会受到气氛的影响，得到真实的放松和享受。

12、给朋友寄卡片

       挑选10-15张别致的卡片，放在包中随身携带，在等公共汽车、排队结帐、 等人时，随手拿出一张写上只言片语，如“想念你”、“愿你的心情和今天的天气一样灿烂”、“一定要幸福哟”、“想起我们上大学的日子”等等，然后邮寄给你的朋友。当所有的卡片都被一一写完并邮寄出去后，一想到朋友们收到卡片时惊喜的表情，你会露出发自内心的迷人笑容。

七个快乐的理由:

快乐理由之一:有很好的阳光的中午，吃到了好美味的大螃蟹

快乐理由之二：周末，洗衣服，泡泡们是一个个发光的小精灵，飘啊飘啊的飘向太阳去……我偷偷向其中的一个小精灵许了一个愿：希望在雨天之后，张开眼就能够看到阳光，我想它会帮我实现的~！

快乐理由之三：阳光照耀时有可爱的人为你做早餐,而你乐意用亲吻来答谢他

快乐理由之四：在夏天里洗可爱的泡泡浴，手中的棒棒糖很甜，电视里的动画片很吸引人

快乐理由之五：与快乐的猪猪、狗狗在一起度过一个阳光明媚的下午

快乐理由之六：夜晚，在暖暖的水里边泡脚丫边喝牛奶，还有小狗在为我讲童话，哈哈，它连书 都拿倒了，月亮爷爷在窗外打哈欠呢

快乐理由之七:找一个艳阳天，把家里的小杂什全洗一洗，晒一晒，一切都有阳光的味道

几招调整心态的办法:

一、畅顺沟通：工作中出现意见分歧、发生问题都在所难免，主动沟通让我们能够增进同事之间的感情和默契度，面对困难时可齐心协力共同解决。快乐来源于相互的理解和尊重，良好的沟通能让我们获得快乐！
　　二、乐观心态：心态平和的人容易获得满足，心态乐观的人更容易捕捉快乐，调整因工作带来的厌倦和疲惫，我们需要做的就是改变自己对工作的主观态度，如“事情太多”、“工资太低”“天天都这些事没意思”等等，我们应该更多的想到工作带给我们的好处，如“人事都很熟，做事很上手”、“工作让我积累了很多经验”等。
　　三、情绪发泄：工作中出现的不良情绪可能导致职业发展的停滞不前，适时的疏导，把情绪发泄出来，避免造成情绪积压。
　　四、压力缓解：工作给人带来成就、价值的同时，也送去了沉重的压力。这种压力深深地制约着人的工作热情和激情，“化压力为动力”只是少数人的成功经历。适当的娱乐有助于压力的缓解，使生活多一些轻松和愉悦，让你转移对压力的注意力。
　　五、存在价值：长期、单一的职业让更多的人认为自己的工作没有价值、没有意义。这时，你该反问自己工作是为了什么？自己在工作中追求的到底是什么？自己的潜能如何？工作兴趣在哪儿？如果你的需求已经超出了目前职业所能赋予你的，那么，另谋东家应该是时候了。
　　六、健康革命的本钱：身体健康的人让人充满活力，心理健康的人让人积极向上，工作中出现的状态跟这两种健康密不可分。

30种快乐方法:

1、 保持健康，有健康的身体才有快乐的心情！

2、 充分休息，别透支你的体力。累则心烦，烦易生气。 3、 适度运动，会使你身轻如燕，心情愉快！ 4、 爱你周围的人并使他们快乐！ 5、 用出自内心的微笑和人们打招呼，你就得到相同的回报！ 6、 遗忘令你不快乐的事情，原谅令你不快乐的人！ 7、 真正地去关怀你的亲人、朋友、工作和四周细微的事物！ 8、 别对现实生活过于苛求，长存感激的心情！ 9、 享受人生，别把时间浪费在不必要的忧虑上！ 10、 身在福中能知福，也能享受坏的际遇，且不忘记宽恕！ 11、 献身于你的工作，但别变成它的奴隶！ 12、 随时替自己创造一些容易实现的愿望！ 13、 每隔一阵子去过一天和你平常不同方式的生活！ 14、 每天抽出一点时间，让自己澄心静虑，使心灵宁静！ 15、 回忆那些使你快乐的事情! 16、 凡事多往好处想！ 17、 为你的工作做妥善的计划，使你有剩余的时间和精力自由支配！ 18、 追求一些新的兴趣，但不是强迫自己去培养一种习惯！ 19、 抓住瞬间的灵感，好好利用，别轻易虚掷！ 20、 替生活制造些有趣的小插曲，制造新鲜感！ 21、 如果心中不愉快，找个和平的方式发泄一下！ 22、 泡壶好茶，找三两知己，无所为地畅谈一番。 23、 偶尔忘记你的计划和预算，随心所欲吧！ 24、 重新安排你的生活空间， 使自己耳目一新。 25、 搜集趣闻、笑话、并与你周围的人共享。 26、 安排一个休假，和能使你快乐的人共度！ 27、 去看部喜剧片，大笑一场。 28、 送自己一份礼物！ 29、 给心爱的人一个惊喜！ 30、 每天给自己一个微笑！

让自己快乐起来:

1.一次只担心一件事情。

女人的焦虑往往超过男人。哈佛大学的研究人员对166名已婚夫妇进行了6个星期的研究,发现了因为女人们更爱方方面面地考虑问题,所以女人们比男人更经常感到压力。她会考虑自己的工作、体重,还有每个家庭成员的健康等等。

2.每天集中精力几分钟。

比如现在的工作就是把这份报告打好,其他的事情一概抛在脑后,不去想。在工作的间隙,你也可以花上20分钟的时间放松一下,仅仅是散步而不考虑你的工作,仅仅专注于你周围的一切,比如你看见什么,听见什么,感觉到什么,闻到什么气味等等。

3.说出或写出来你的担忧。

记日记,或与朋友一 起谈一谈,至少你不会感觉孤独而且无助。美国的医学专家曾经对一些患有风湿性关节炎或气喘的人进行分组,一组人用敷衍塞责的方式记录他们每天做了的事情。 另外的一组被要求每天认真地写日记,包括他们的恐惧和疼痛。结果研究人员发现：后一组的人很少因为自己的病而感到担忧和焦虑。

4.不管你有多忙碌,一定要锻练。

研究人员发现在经过30分钟的踏脚踏车的锻炼后,被测试者的压力水平下降了25%。上健身房,快走30分钟,或者在起床时进行一些伸展练习都行。

5.享受按摩的乐趣。

不只是传统的全身按摩,还包括足底按摩,修指甲或美容,这些都能让你的精神松弛下来。

6.放慢说话的速度。

也许你每天的桌上摆满了要看的文件,你的右手在接听电话,左手还要翻看资料。你要应付形形色色的人,说各种各样的话。那么你一定要记住,尽量保持乐观的态度,放慢你的速度。

7.不要太严肃。

不妨和朋友一起说个小笑话,大家哈哈一笑,气氛活跃了,自己也放松了。事实上,笑不仅能减轻紧张,还有增进人体的免疫力的功能。

8.不要让否定的声音围绕自己,而把自己逼疯。

老板也许会说你这不行那不行,实际上自己也是有着许多优点的,只是老板没发现而已。


9.读一篇小说,唱歌,啜茶,或者干脆什么也不干,坐在窗前发呆。

这时候关键是你内心的体味,一种宁静,一种放松。

10.至少记住今天发生的一件好事情。

不管你今天多辛苦,多不高兴,回到家里,都应该把今天的一件好事情同家人分享。

★记住，你只活一辈子，而现在，正是你一生中最好的时光！一个人有生就有死，但只要活着，就要以最好的方式活下去！^-^

How To Concentrate (z)

"Concentration is the Most Important Intellectual Habit of Man."

Not one person in ten thousand can really concentrate. Some realize that they do not know how—others drift along the line of least resistance and let their minds vegetate, apparently never suspecting their weakness or realizing that they are an utter failure at concentration. To Cori-centre—bringing all your mental force and faculties to bear steadily on a given center with-out deviation from that exact point—whipping into line all wandering fancies—stray ideas or thoughts that go off on a tangent—to hold steadily all your power on the central thing under consideration without an instant of wavering—that is Concentration.

This ONE THING I Do

A difficult thing to do, and very few minds can do it. St. Paul gives us the shortest definition of concentration on record when he says, " This one thing I do," short, but tremendously significant. Another Bible definition is excellent: " Whatsoever thy hand findeth to do, do it with thy might." Some men work that way, intense fellows--brilliant professional men—big business men—executives—leaders in the world of finance—science—invention—literature—education—it matters not what kind of work, the point is that when these men pitch hay, they pitch hay —when they write a book, they write a book—when they manage a sales campaign, they man-age a sales campaign. That one thing they do at that one time, and nothing else, and every ounce they have goes into the doing. But back of all this has been a lot of mental discipline, a lot of habit-forming, a lot of brain-building. Let us consider some of the steps by which they have climbed. To the ambitious student, I offer five practical aids to concentration, planned to meet the needs of one who wishes to build from the ground up. We must assume as prerequisites, interest and attention, which have already been discussed.

AIDS TO CONCENTRATION

These aids will do more than help you to follow a memory course; they deal with your daily work. Concentration applies to all the activities of life. It should be established as a life habit. To all who think, I bring this message, Think it with thy might. Make a business of doing one thing at a time with all your soul. Chesterfield was right when he said, " There is time enough for everything in the course of a day if we do but one thing at a time, but there is not time enough in a year if we try to do two things at a time."

PERIODICAL RELAXATION

It may seem paradoxical that the first aid to better concentration refers to relaxation. But I have observed that some of the most intense intellects fail in their concentration because they never relax. Failure to let go between efforts is their chief stumbling block. They keep them-selves tense, nervous, " keyed-up " all the time, even when there is no need for it, thereby wasting nervous energy. They find it very difficult to " let go "—to relieve the high-tension by a little natural, wholesome relaxation. Possibly they feel like the Irishman who was trapped on the fourth floor of a burning building. He fought his way to the window but was afraid to jump. The flames drove him on until he was hanging to the window ledge with his hands. His friends, in the street below, seeing the walls were about to fall, kept shouting at him to " let go." Finally, he growled back at them between set teeth—" How kin I let go when it's all I can do to hang on? " But we must learn to let go—to relax completely—before each period of in-tense concentration. Here is the working principle: Relaxation precedes perfect concentration. A delightful illustration of this point is given by Elizabeth Towne.

Six puppies were playing in the barn. The barn door was closed and with the world shut out, they were giving themselves up completely to the; spirit of play. Two of them were staging a mock battle over a feather, while the others were rolling over and over in the loose straw on the barn floor in utter enjoyment.

Suddenly the barn door softly creaked. 'Instantly every puppy came to attention; heads up —tails up—bodies rigid—bright eyes fixed in intense concentration on that door, as it slowly swung open. A moment before they had been in a state of complete relaxation. Now, they offered a perfect example of concentration as they stood at attention, waiting and watching for the unknown danger that Might be coming from the other. Side of the barn door.

All great mental achievement has been preceded by periods of absolute rest or relaxtion! During.this time fatigue disappears the nervous forces. recuperate and the minds-stores up fresh energy axed establishes a reserve to draw upon during" the hours of intense concentration demanded by the. big task high lies must ahead.

Very often this preparation period of relaxation determines. the success or failure of the uder taking.-Herbert -Spencer, once made, a speech on.," The Gospel "of Relaxation will, which he pointed ,out that continual tress and strain high tension without periods relaxation were responsible for much chronic fatigue and many a nervous breakdown. is far better to indulge. It in an voluntary let down than: to Offer an involuntary breakdown, Different .people take their relaxation best in different ways, but, whether in complete rest, of play or wholesome laughter, it must come before any sustained effort of concentration. Nature itself requires cycles of growth and rest. Take your breathing spell before the battle.

MENTAL FREEDOM

The next step is to free the mind. Nothing is of greater aid to concentration. In fact, unless you are able to do this, concentration is impossible. When. harassed by the three devils, hurry, worry, and f ear, the mind never has a fair chance to center on anything. " Worry generates a poison at the roots of memory." But in your period of relaxation, you have an excellent opportunity to free the mind—now is your chance to eliminate all mental handicaps and get ready for the race. Not only hurry, worry, and fear must be thrown overboard, but anything and everything that troubles you and disturbs your serenity and your peace of mind. Out they go ! You should not indulge in day-dreaming, either, or mental drifting. Clear the mental horizon; give yourself a clean slate to write upon when your hour of concentration comes. And when it comes, if you have availed yourself of these first two aids I have given, you will be, possessed of that rare thing, mental poise.

THE PROPER ENVIRONMENT

In order to keep it, utilize the third aid: right conditions. Now, it is true that a trained mind can concentrate under any conditions—in the roar and din of .crowded cities or the busy hum of traffic—in the midst of telephone calls or a thousand and one other interruptions. Some men can concentrate on a mental problem while walking down a Chicago street and never hear the roar of the elevated or see the hurrying throngs. I have seen men write on a crowded street car perfectly oblivious to the people about them, not even hearing their own stations when called. But these men were already masters of concentration, and I am addressing my remarks to those who have not yet learned how to concentrate. Therefore, it is only a matter of common-sense to make conditions as favorable as possible. Give your mind a fair chance. Concentration is difficult enough, even under the best conditions. I would suggest that you seek a quiet place free from all distractions (and noise is a terrible distractor), a place free from all interruptions which may break your train of thought (and a telephone is a terrible interruptor), a place where you can be alone, free from all outside influences (and a friend who " must drops in " is a terrible outside influence), and a place of pleasing environment, beautiful or otherwise, where the atmosphere is right for you. I mean atmosphere in its fuller sense, although an abundance of sweet, fresh air is necessary. A well-poised mind can create its own atmosphere which inspires the individual, puts him at his best, is strongly conducive to good mental work, and has much to do with his success in concentrating. Not alone for the beginner, but I may safely say for the majority, is this true. In fact, some of our greatest creative thinkers absolutely insist on right conditions and the right kind of a place in which to produce their master-pieces. True, good books have been written in mail—great poems written in the trenches—masterly speeches conceived on an express train. But in every case there was a degree of concentration strong enough to rise triumphant above the environment.

Atmosphere--environment—these things differ with the individual—it's all in the mind. One man may do his best work seated in a luxurious chair in his beautiful and artistic study--another may reach his highest plane of creative thinking while sitting under a lone pine-tree on the crest of a hill. Choose your own place for concentration, but remember that solitude has always been, in all the history of mental achievement, a requisite for great work.

Solitude calls forth the mood of receptivity. Only then do we get the best. Great things are worked out in silence. Then come the flashes of inspiration—the new visions. Emerson tells us that " Solitude is to genius the stern friend—the cold, obscure shelter, where mould the wings which will bear it farther than suns or stars," and we have this thought from Carlyle: " Silence is the element in which great things fashion themselves together—that at length they may emerge full-formed and mamestic into the delight of life—which they are henceforth to rule."

The great poems written in lonely garrets—the masterpiece paintings conceived by the artist amid the fields—the divine harmonies first heard by the musician communing with the stars—the sublime oration which first stirred the soul of the orator as he tramped in the forest—all attest that the best comes to man when he is alone.

Witness Burns—the Scotch peasant among the daisies pouring out the lyric songs which to- day touch sympathetic hearts the " warld o'er."

Witness Emerson—bidding good-bye to the proud world and retiring to that Sylvan Home, " bosomed in yon green hills "—and there creating his incomparable essays.

Witness Demosthenes—on the seashore—building to the big music of the waves his match-less oration on the Crown.

Witness Byron—alone on the Alps—writing by the glare of the lightning flash his magnificent description of the Thunderstorm.

And today right in this practical present—thousands of our most successful business men have learned this secret—that by getting alone—they can gain new efficiency—and think out better plans for managing their daily affairs.

History will bear me out in the statement that to bear Solitude well is a mark of greatness. Look at Lincoln—back there in the country for the first thirty years of his life, nourishing his own soul and disciplining his own mind.

Hillis has well said, " What a college and a crowd could not do for thousands of young men —Solitude did for the rail-splitter's son. Alone he sailed the seas of thought with God for his only companion, till at last he stood forth, a mountain-minded man."

A DEFINITE SCHEDULE

The fourth aid to concentration, is a very practical one: make a daily schedule. In the first place, such a schedule saves an inconceivable amount of time. Harrington Emerson, in his noted book, Twelve Principles of Efficiency, lays great stress upon the necessity and value of a written daily schedule. But what has this to do with concentration as applied to memory, you may ask? Simply this—your daily schedule helps to focus the mind, holds it steadily to one thing at a time and in the right order. Following a logical sequence tends to eliminate con-fusion.

It has been demonstrated in efficiency tests over and over again that time and energy are lost not so much on the operation itself as in passing from one operation to another. So in our mental operations, failure to move smoothly from one thing to another results in confusion. And when confusion comes, concentration goes. A definite daily schedule is a wonderful aid in keeping the mind on the right track. It often proves to be the salvation of those who have been unable to concentrate. Try it.

在路上 z

（一）
　　
　　 罗永浩在吉大做了一个演讲，叫《我的奋斗》。其中，有一个他早年在新东方学习英语的故事。
　　
　　 他们学习的地方，在北京附近的一个山上。很多人象疯子一样拼命地背单词。他觉得这种疯狂的感觉真好。
　　
　　 他经常在晚上2点过离去的时候，还有很多人在坚持。
　　
　　 有一天，他决心要拿第一。那天晚上，他坚持到了4点钟。实在是不行了，打了一个小盹。醒过来的时候，看见有两个人在向他比着"V"的手势。
　　
　　 他知道，这些人在早上的七点钟，仍然会按时出现在教室的课堂上。
　　
　　 他知道自己为何要这样玩命：他讨厌英语，他也讨厌老师。可是，为了今后要当一个新东方的老师，为了奔向新东方的百万年薪。他知道，他别无选择。
　　
　　 他不清楚别人来新东方学习的动力是什么，他看见的每个人都是如此的拼命。
　　
　　 那是一个夏天，上课的时候，几百个人拥挤在一个教室里上课，持续的高温和睡眠不足，几乎大半的学生都用纸堵着一个流鼻血的鼻孔。而罗永浩的两个鼻孔都堵上了。
　　
　　 就这样，经历了几个月的魔鬼式的学习，他通过了新东方的考试。
　　
　　 学完后，他知道自己再也回不去了。他在北京的近郊租了一个地方，用一些砖头搭了一个床。
　　
　　 他睡觉的时候只能仰着，不能随便翻身，他知道翻身的时候，人容易掉下来，而且两边的气味不如中间那么容易忍受。
　　
　　 罗永浩决定把自己关起来背单词。他怕自己会三天打鱼，两天晒网。自己想了个约束自己的办法：去垃圾收购站买了100多斤的励志书，放在门口。
　　
　　 如果有朋友打电话约他出去玩的话，他一旦按奈不住，走到门口的时候，随手拿起一本来翻到其中一页，就会看到类似这样的句子：
　　
　　 少装不努力，老大徒伤悲。
　　
　　 罗永浩赶紧跑到厕所里冲凉水，然后，照着镜子，给自己两个耳光。把自己能外出见人的衣服都扔掉。自己又重新拿起书开始背单词。
　　
　　 就这样反复跟自己的懒惰和妥协做斗争，一年过去了。
　　
　　 罗永浩终于脱胎换骨，他写了万言自荐书给新东方的俞敏洪。他去新东方试讲了两次。俞敏洪觉得他口才太差，根本不适合当老师。在最后一次试讲中，他终于放开了自己。
　　
　　 他终于在新东方开始了自己的英语教师生涯。那年，他已经将近30岁了。
　　
　　 5年后，他终于成为了新东方年薪最高的老师。
　　
　　（二）
　　
　　 关于罗永浩在新东方学习的那段艰苦卓绝，还可以从另外一个人的眼睛里看到。
　　
　　 《赢在中国》的主持人王利芬曾经有这样的一段文字：
　　
　　 在做《赢在中国》之前，我曾看过一个关于俞敏洪的电视片，说的是他在创办新东方初期，一个十分炎热的夏天，他每天上十节课。由于上课条件简陋，没有空调，教室里奇热难熬。学生是一边不停地擦汗一边上课，由于持续十多天的高温，俞敏洪担心学生会中暑，就拿一些冰块让学生们用毛巾包起来放在额头上降温。这样的情形持续了十多天，他非常着急，一天下午，天突然下起了瓢泼大雨，他冲出教室嘴里喊着"我的学生有救了！"然后在院子里号啕大哭。
　　
　　 后来，王利芬在节目的主题歌《在路上》写下了这样的一句歌词：
　　
　　 路上的辛酸已融进我的眼睛.....
　　
　　(三)
　　
　　 老鸟的朋友开了一家IT培训公司，请老鸟给学生们做一些职业生涯建议的讲座。老鸟马上就答应了。
　　
　　 老鸟讲了一些专业上读书的意见，然后，跟大家说：绝大多数人，绝大多数时候，人都只能靠自己。
　　
　　 他说：你没有什么好的家庭背景，你没有遇到什么贵人，你也没读什么好学校。这些都不碍事。关键是，你决心要走那条路，想成为什么样的人，准备怎样对自己的懒惰下黑手。
　　
　　 老鸟说：当年，我去深圳找工作，白天在华强北的人才市场里投简历，晚上，就睡在附近的草坪里。那时，有很多我们这样的人，虽然仍然在生活中挣扎，但从来没怀疑过自己可以挺下去。直到今天也是如此。
　　
　　 老鸟说：想想自己一天用多少时间来工作，用多少时间来学习，用多少时间在网络上游荡，用多少时间来抱怨。如果你从来都没有压榨过自己。那就什么都别说了。
　　
　　 老鸟给学生的建议是，有空去看一部电影：《当幸福来敲门》。
　　
　　 这部电影讲述的是一个男人在失业的压力下，他应该怎样去面对和选择。
　　
　　 老鸟也给大家讲了罗永浩、俞敏洪他们的故事。他们面对的困境，本质上是如出一辙的。
　　
　　 老鸟说：每个人都有自己的困境。那种心灵的困境。每个人都在想：我为什么不能成功？我为什么不能得到幸福？
　　
　　 这部电影在片尾的时候，告诉了我们答案：
　　
　　 男人终于被录用了。他从面试的地方出来。他欢快的脚步在熙熙攘攘的人群中跳跃。
　　
　　 他说：此刻，他感到了幸福。
　　
　　 每个人都有追求成功和幸福的权力。但是，可没人说你一定会得到它：看成功的100个法则不能，看唐骏的我的成功可以复制也不能。
　　
　　 到现在为止，只有互联网的文字可以复制，每个人要自己走的路，是不能复制的。
　　
　　 生活告诉我们，一个人总是要在付出必须的努力之后，才能收获到一点点的幸福。
　　
　　 生活，其实是没有捷径的。你总不可能什么都不想付出，就想获得一切。
　　
　　 生活的路就是勇敢地向前走，依靠你自己的梦想、信念、勤奋和坚持，只有这样，你才有机会在走的过程中，自我证明，找到你想要的尊严。

坦然看人生

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坦然看人生 活得真累，有时候我们会禁不住地这样感叹。那些不顺心的日子，我们也总感觉活得真烦。在寻找了千百种理由之后，当我们蓦然回首曾经走过的岁月，我们会发现，其实生活赐予我们的，与别人并没什么不同；呈现在我们视野里的生活，每个人其实都一样，不同的是我们的胸襟中缺少一份"坦然"。    当看见那些假日里的钓鱼者，一大早出门，在夕阳下却拎着空空的鱼篓回家时，一路上却留下欢声笑语。当看见那些早出晚归的农民，在晚霞的辉映下回家时．那张写满疲倦的脸上却洋溢着朝霞一样的笑容。当看见那些恋人在分手时，脸上虽有一份无奈，眼里有着一份淡淡的忧伤，但却依然潇洒地挥挥手，互道一声珍重时，不禁内心会这样感叹——坦然真好!   突然想起来这样一句话："天空留不下我的痕迹，但我已飞过。"其实，这不就是对坦然最好的诠释吗?    坦然，是一种失意后的乐观。坦然，是沮丧时自我的一种调整。坦然，其实就是平淡中的一份自信。在人生中，许多成败与得失，并非我们都能预料到的，很多的事情也并不是我们都能够承担得起的。但只要我们努力去做，求得一份付出后的坦然，其实得到的也是一种快乐!    生活里许多的人，我们是捉摸不定的，甚至防不胜防。但我们不必去计较，更不必去埋怨。我们唯一能做的是，当我们必须去面对他们的时候，奉上我们的真心。以君子之心度小人之怀，那不正显示我们的博大胸襟吗?    假如生活给我们的只是一次又一次的挫折，一次又一次的失败，其实，这也没什么，因为那并没有夺走我们活得快乐和自由的权利。没有蓝天的高远，我们可以有白云的飘逸；没有大海的壮阔，我们可以有小溪的悠然；没有草原的芬芳，我们可以有小草的青翠。    坦然，会让我们的生活美丽而快乐!                                         (台湾《小品文章》)     

 

 

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祝所有的亲人、朋友们新年快乐，身体健康，万事顺利，虎虎生威！

 

 

Time management: Tips to reduce stress and improve productivity

Effective time management is a primary means to a less stressful life. These practices can help you reduce your stress and reclaim your personal life.

By Mayo Clinic staff

Do you find yourself overwhelmed by the number and complexity of projects you have that need to be completed at work each day? Do you often feel the day flies by without your devoting the necessary attention to each assignment because other tasks keep landing on your desk, co-workers interrupt you with questions or you can't get it all organized?

You probably know that effective time management will help you get more done each day. It has important health benefits, too. By managing your time more wisely, you can minimize stress and improve your quality of life.

But how do you get back on track when organizational skills don't come naturally? To get started, choose one of these strategies, try it for two to four weeks and see if it helps. If it does, consider adding another one. If not, try a different one.

• Plan each day. Planning your day can help you accomplish more and feel more in control of your life. Write a to-do list, putting the most important tasks at the top. Keep a schedule of your daily activities to minimize conflicts and last-minute rushes.
• Prioritize your tasks. Time-consuming but relatively unimportant tasks can consume a lot of your day. Prioritizing tasks will ensure that you spend your time and energy on those that are truly important to you.
• Say no to nonessential tasks. Consider your goals and schedule before agreeing to take on additional work.
• Delegate. Take a look at your to-do list and consider what you can pass on to someone else.
• Take the time you need to do a quality job. Doing work right the first time may take more time upfront, but errors usually result in time spent making corrections, which takes more time overall.
• Break large, time-consuming tasks into smaller tasks. Work on them a few minutes at a time until you get them all done.
• Practice the 10-minute rule. Work on a dreaded task for 10 minutes each day. Once you get started, you may find you can finish it.
• Evaluate how you're spending your time. Keep a diary of everything you do for three days to determine how you're spending your time. Look for time that can be used more wisely. For example, could you take a bus or train to work and use the commute to catch up on reading? If so, you could free up some time to exercise or spend with family or friends.
• Limit distractions. Block out time on your calendar for big projects. During that time, close your door and turn off your phone, pager and e-mail.
• Get plenty of sleep, have a healthy diet and exercise regularly. A healthy lifestyle can improve your focus and concentration, which will help improve your efficiency so that you can complete your work in less time.
• Take a time management course. If your employer offers continuing education, take a time management class. If your workplace doesn't have one, find out if a local community college, university or community education program does.
• Take a break when needed. Too much stress can derail your attempts at getting organized. When you need a break, take one. Take a walk. Do some quick stretches at your workstation. Take a day of vacation to rest and re-energize.

• Ask for professional help

  If you're too frazzled to think about trying any of these tips, it's time to ask for help. Does your life feel totally out of control? If so, contact your employee assistance program (EAP) at your workplace for assistance, or discuss your situation with your doctor.

Some words.

Treat every minute in your life just as a magic time. Although it is easy to say and hard to act, it is very wise in our life. Remember it in your mind.

Don't be nervous about things, try to focus on the important things. All what you can do it is do as well as you can. Worry cannot bring anything good.

smoothed analysis: a very beautiful work.

Although I don't know much about it. But According to the response of other people, it seems to be a great work.

 

Frankly, I like it.

我是不会低头的

是的，我们从来没有服输过。咬牙都要坚持到底。