I think Peggy Li already gave a great answer to this question, so, uh, I just have one additional point to make.
If you allow your level of satisfaction in life to be tied to whether your peers are better than you in one specific aspect of life, you'll never be happy, nor will you have the right mindset to achieve your full potential.
For one thing, there will always be people better than you, and the higher up you get, the more impressive are the peers you encounter. What if you had a "high-sounding job title" too, like your peers? You'd have more responsibility, and probably attend conferences in your field, where you'd meet and network people who are even better than you. Nothing would change. And even if you were literally at the top of your field, you can't be the best at everything. You can always find something else that other people are better at.
But also, for the most part, people don't come to excel through the desire to land in high-up places. They come to excel by working hard at something they enjoy and taking pride in constantly building their skill set and experience.
To me, it's pretty clear that feeling constantly disappointed with oneself is not a good motivator in life---it is not something that will enable you to eventually be happy or to accomplish your goals. It is therefore not something that should be part of a healthy person's life. When people feel the need to compare themselves with others too much, it is usually a symptom of something else missing in their lives. For example, it could be that you feel you aren't appreciated enough by your manager and your co-workers at your existing job, and your rationalization is that you feel bad because your job isn't prestigious enough, but really, that isn't the underlying cause. Some critical reflection would be helpful here---what is missing from your life? (Note: If you really are depressed, do seek therapy, as you won't be able to reason with yourself.)
If you allow your level of satisfaction in life to be tied to whether your peers are better than you in one specific aspect of life, you'll never be happy, nor will you have the right mindset to achieve your full potential.
For one thing, there will always be people better than you, and the higher up you get, the more impressive are the peers you encounter. What if you had a "high-sounding job title" too, like your peers? You'd have more responsibility, and probably attend conferences in your field, where you'd meet and network people who are even better than you. Nothing would change. And even if you were literally at the top of your field, you can't be the best at everything. You can always find something else that other people are better at.
But also, for the most part, people don't come to excel through the desire to land in high-up places. They come to excel by working hard at something they enjoy and taking pride in constantly building their skill set and experience.
To me, it's pretty clear that feeling constantly disappointed with oneself is not a good motivator in life---it is not something that will enable you to eventually be happy or to accomplish your goals. It is therefore not something that should be part of a healthy person's life. When people feel the need to compare themselves with others too much, it is usually a symptom of something else missing in their lives. For example, it could be that you feel you aren't appreciated enough by your manager and your co-workers at your existing job, and your rationalization is that you feel bad because your job isn't prestigious enough, but really, that isn't the underlying cause. Some critical reflection would be helpful here---what is missing from your life? (Note: If you really are depressed, do seek therapy, as you won't be able to reason with yourself.)
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